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I love Joan’s blog. My Best Friend Adeline covers similar topics to the Little Blog of Positivity.
Joan has set up the blog as a place to find comfort and reassurance during times that you need it most. She’s named it ‘My Best Friend Adeline’ as she likes to think of it as a best friend you can turn to at any time. She chose the name Adeline because it means kindness.
I will be visiting often!
So what’s this award then? The Flawesome award was created by Sophia Ismaa. She wanted to create an award that celebrates our flaws.
Here is Sophia’s description of the award:
“It’s time to celebrate the flaws that make you awesome. How many times do we see an award that celebrates all things bright and shiny and sunny in a person? How often do we forget that our weaknesses can be a strength? Our flaws make us human, our flaws tell us more about who we are, and in turn, we turn those flaws into awesome strengths. In short, our flaws make us #flawesome”.
To be Flawesome, Sophia asks us to take three of our flaws, write about them and turn them into a positive strength. She then asks us to nominate ten others to do the same.
I am pretty hard on myself, so I initially came up with a list of about six flaws!! (And I’ve just thought of a seventh – being too hard on myself…) I’ve managed to narrow it down to three, so here we go!
1. I’m a sensitive soul
I have been like this all my life, caring way too much about what people say and think about me. I take stuff to heart and can be quite easily teased and injured. This tendency has improved as I’ve got older and have realised that the world doesn’t revolve around me!!
Looking at the positive side of this flaw, I think it leads to me having greater empathy towards others.
I find I can pick up on the emotions of others, even if they are trying to hide how they are feeling. Then, because I notice, I can try and help the person.
I also think it helps me to think through how others might feel in a particular situation. I think it makes me a kinder person.
2. I don’t like conflict
If you are familiar with the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) I am an ‘ESFJ’ type personality. A trait of this personality type is not liking conflict. This is definitely correct in my case and I would, in the past, go out of my way to avoid it. Then I made a career choice where dealing with conflict is inevitable! (Human Resources). So I’ve learned how to deal with it over time.
Although it still makes me uncomfortable, I think this is actually one of the strengths that comes from this flaw. Some would avoid the conflict I suppose, but I haven’t had the choice of doing this in my work life! So, because it makes me uncomfortable and because I can’t avoid it, I will do whatever I can to try and resolve it!
According to a 360 feedback exercise that I did a few years ago, others see ‘conflict resolution’ as one of my key strengths! Little do they know that every time I have to face conflict I have a huge knot of anxiety in my tummy!!
3. I overthink things
I know from conversations with others that many of you have the same issue with this one.
Say something has happened during the day and I don’t think I dealt with it particularly well. I will ruminate, replay the situation and beat myself up for not doing better!
I can also do the same about future scenarios, going over and over something I’m worried about.
Although this one does drive me crazy at times (meditation helps) I do also take a positive from it. I’ll always try and find some learning lessons in the thing that has gone wrong. I also try to think about the things that went well in the situation. Then I try and write these things down.
If I’m worried about a future event, then it helps me to think of a concrete action plan that I can put into place.
Learning ways to benefit from and document the thoughts which arise during my overthinking has definitely helped me.
So, there we have it. I encourage you to have a think about the things you see as flaws in yourself, I’m sure you can make them ‘flawesome’ too!
Here are the ten other bloggers I am nominating to have a go at this exercise. (No pressure as I know you all have busy lives!)